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Our Greatest Adventure Begins… Boy or Girl? (Can’tWait)

We are happy to announce that our ‘alone time and freedom’ is about to be cut short. We’re expecting our baby soon!!!

Don’t be sad for us though, it was on purpose and it’s God you should hold accountable! ****insertSmile):

See this;๐Ÿ‘‡


Behold,children are a heritage from the Lord,
    the fruit of the womb a reward.
Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
   are the children of one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
    who fills his quiver with them!
He shall not be put to shame
   when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.”
Psam 127:3-5 (ESV)

โ€œEvery good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow.” James 1:17 (ASV)

For most of you, this may be coming as a surprise even though I’ve been receiving questions like ‘RRY when will we get invited for a naming ceremony?’ Well, if you come from this part of the country (Nigeria) you would know these kinda questions are a count-on-it experience.
Unsurprisingly, it’s indirectly informing you the spectators are watching and infact waiting. It’s like an established rule or something: after a wedding, it is expected that 9months should equate to a baby. ****Insert Smile): It’s a norm, ‘our norm.’

Just the reality alone is making my heart race a million times per second. This whole thing is all so new and raw. I’m having all kinds of mixed emotions I tell you.

I wonder what will happen when I finally hold my baby. Goosebumps)

With that being said, what I’m trying to say is, I’m about to become a mother. ****ThecoyMistress.

But the thing is, I haven’t even finished being a wife and now I’m about to be someone’s mother. Oh Lord have Mercy! Like really? See why I need prayers.

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When you’re not about to give up on fashion even with a baby-bump (@ 20wks)

Growing up, I’ve been incredibly self-sufficient; meaning that I’m that kinda girl who is capable of cleaning up her mess without necessarily dragging anyone into it but guess what? Pregnancy threw me into a frenzy and sure gave me a run for my money and I’m about to tell you all about it…Well, maybe not all, I mean how can I sum up an experience of 9-months in a single article especially when lazy readers are already frowning at me. I won’t be able to, not in depth and not to everyone.
****InsertSmile):

With that being saidโ€ฆthis is my honest confession that being pregnant, has been by far one of the ‘strangest ‘experience’ of my entire life.

Thankfully, pregnancy ain’t gat nothing on me except for the pot belly and emotional down-turn. (@ 22wks)

Truth is, I didn’t really get the magical feeling that some women describe when talking about their pregnancies and I thought to myself; damn it RRY, you’re so feeble or perhaps less than a woman.
Wait a minute, or are you just being lazy? But then again, I’ve been many things in my days but lazy has never been part of it.

From the very beginning, I was horrifically sick. At some point, I had to deal with depression and anxiety and this feeling that kept coming to torment me that I was about to loose myself; the fear(devil) that would constantly knock me down lying to my mind that I was about to ‘set sail’ the maiden in me, never to see her again”

(words won’t even do justice at this point to tell you all)

Every doubt I had was chemically and hormonally amplified and then there were those crazy nightmares that made it so hard to sleep.

Those days (first trimester especially) were pretty rough, from waking up every morning with headaches,(mind you; my whole life, I think I’ve had headache once or twice,) to intense fever.

Soon I was sticking my head in the toilet to puke countless of times, losing every single appetite for the things I once loved and cherished. (I couldn’t blog for months, even to call or return calls became a problem.) My energy level was on a constant minus zero. I had null inspiration for everything and everybody.

(My food aversions were off the chain)- I couldn’t eat meat, sea-food was worse, no diary product, my love for tea went on a vacation for the entire first trimester and a few weeks into the second one.
It was insane.
I lost so much weight (I dropped from being 53kg to 49kg in less than three months) I remember my family getting scared when they saw me. If anyone ever told me there would ever be a time where I would hate tea and veggies for over 4months, I would bet with my last dollar in self defense.

But then again, you think you know everything about yourself then pregnancy humbles you to the core.

It was a horrid nightmareโ€ฆ I got so use to being sick that I didn’t know there was a state of being “alright”
Through my eyes, something was definitely wrong with the world and it seemed the whole weight had just been dropped on my shoulders.

Notwithstanding, the best thing That has come out of this whole experience so far is how much I see God now, the added reverence I have for God is far from superficial. (Especially when my baby kicks, I can no longer tell where my soul ends and the baby’s begins)

The Zenith of happiness is feeling a baby kick in your belly. (@29wks)

oh my goodness, how can I forget to mention it’s the most awe-struck feeling I know in the entire universe.

That’s probably the only thing I’ll miss about being pregnant. ****Tears.

I fear God. Not that I didn’t before but this kinda fear is different, not the kind that makes me scared he’s about to whoop my assโ€ฆ(Nope!) It’s the kind that makes you reverence and honour His personality so much you feel unworthy of His Goodness and Mercies!

I’m even gasping involuntarily cos I can feel it, all the way down to somewhere dark and unexplored, deep in my belly.

This is simply because we are told by science that a sperm fertilises an egg and about 40 weeks later, it’s developed into a fully-grown baby, ready to be born.

But in the meantime, what exactly is going on inside the womb? Have you ever wondered?

In all honesty, this new journey has ushered in a totally different dimension of how GREAT GOD IS.

Giving fashion a break…Sometimes, all you just want is to fit into anything comfortable.

I mean how can my little mind begin to imagine a tiny human growing inside me****in a belly where food, water and all these other stuff reside? Science again tells us it begins from an embryo which only consists of nothing but blood. Right? If that even makes any senseโ€ฆ

My question to Y’all is, at what point does something that started as mere blood grow to become a full blown human being with fingernails, hair, gums, a functioning heart, intestines, lungs etcetera.

In this life, there are certain unsolved mysteries that we would never be able to comprehend from a scientific perspective and I’m sure pregnancy is one of them.

If you’re an atheist, it means you probably have a hard time believing in God, but would you borrow me your imagination for a few seconds and tell me how this is even possible without a super power up in heaven****

I mean aren’t you scared of God and his incomprehensible ways? .

Secondly, the added love and appreciation for my mum and every strong woman out there is so huge now.

This whole journey and experience has increased my love level for every woman out there particularly to the precious woman that bore me in her womb, mother you are deeply cherished.


โ€ฆstill more to come, but for now, just know I’m already accepting prayers for a safe delivery.
Please drop a prayer for me.
Blimey!!!
Guess what? We didn’t check the sex of our baby.
Why RRYโ€ฆ? Because we want it to just be a suprise being that it’s our first experience of becoming parents. Maybe with our second pregnancy, we would.

Boy or Girl? Can’t wait to see!

So keep your fingers crossed with me and if you’re for Team-Girl OR Team-Boy, drop your ‘guess’ in the comment section below this article and we see who wins when the baby comes.
Even so, I’m raising the flag very high for team Girlโ€ฆ

Why am I curbing my stomach from top to bottomโ€ฆ? I think its just a woman’s protective instincts. ( I’m already so protective of my baby๐Ÿ˜ƒ).

That said, at this point, I want to encourage and plead with all our ‘precious men’, husbands, and the prospective ones out there to PLEASE support your wives especially when they are pregnant.

You have no idea how strong your baby girl (wife) is, you may never fully understand what she’s going through but you can be there for her emotionally and be her number-one support system.

All the little effort you invest into her can bring so much healing and the love you give will be a source of strength she can draw from. Never ever leave your wife starving for love or your attention.

Please be sensible, sensitive and attentive.

She must not wave her aching hands, back or waist to your face before you ‘decode’ she’s in need of a massage. Help that woman. Please love her. She’s your little baby. Don’t bruise her till she withers away.

Don’t make it look like it’s her pregnancy to carry, No No! Infact it’s more your responsibility because you put her in that compromising position. ****Insert Smile):

If it were not for my God-sent husband, I would have not made it. where I was at my weakest in faith, he kept reminding me about ‘God’s promises’

When I was too weak to cook for him, he cooked for us. (A king that isn’t too big to serve) that’s humility!

When I was too weak to stand on my own, he helped me, without complaining I was overbearing. He didn’t try to reason why I was so weak. He just helped even in days I struggled to ask for help just to prove how strong I can be.

When I was too weak to eat, he fed me.

Those nights I couldn’t stay up to pray with him, he prayed for us both. It’s good to have a partner that is always ready to take it on with you so you don’t have to fight alone.

There were MANY times we were frustrated at each other but all he did was love me all the same and not try to understand me. (Maybe I should remain pregnant forever; for this course)

I literally had to depend on his strength to get by… You and your spouse are a team, never take on a course as individuals.

A Little Advice to Y’all particularly for New Moms:

  1. Guard your hearts against fear, (fear of miscarriage, fear of loosing your baby even before he/she is born, fear of not making it out of the delivery room etcetera) anxiety, depressing thoughts and resentment towards your spouse or even the baby.

2. Build your faith in the word of God even before any adversities arise because in the days you are down, you seriously won’t have the energy or zeal to believe in anything at that point.

In other words, what’s in your spirit is what will shield and encourage you.

…I will come your way again and soon; please do remember to subscribe to our blog if you’re not yet a subscriber.

I remain your favourite girl RRY

I wish you the best in life and in all your endeavours.

Ps: I was forced into a marathon-maternity photo-shoot. The pictures will be posted here next week Wednesday, 31st of July. Those pictures are breathtaking as well as the time invested into all the poses. Don’t miss out on any exciting stuff.

Come and view for free. ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿค—

A new dawn…

Hello, My name is Ringnan Rachel Yarling. (RRY) I am a blogger living in Lagos, (Nigeria) I love inspiring and helping people Live healthy lifestyle (in every aspect). I love educating and inspiring other authors and entrepreneurs to succeed and live the life of their dreams. Never miss out on new exciting free stuff. Phenomenal Woman-That's Me!

58 Comments

    • Ene Elizabeth Adeka

      This is wonderful RRY…especially for we the beginners that are yet to begin. Congratulations and I beg that baby, boy or girl let the hair come out like your own.

      God bless you and I hereby donate myself as babysitter number 40. I know the list is long.

      • RRY

        @Ene -Black Sayafa
        First of all, your prayer’s about to come through @baby taking after my hair. FYI, babysitters are never too many so I’ll remind you when the time is right.
        May yours be better in Jesus name. It’s happening soon Mr&MrsPilot๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜ thank you

    • Gwax

      A worthwhile read.
      So delighted about your experiences and your high sense of optimism.

      We are anticipating the arrival of a big girl with long curly hair soon.

      And for Mr. Gang, I think I should enroll for pampering lessons o.

      Cheers

      • RRY

        @Gwax…
        Thank you and amen to your prayers. Pray harder aginang. I’ll tell Mr Gang to be ready especially while we wait till it’s your turn

    • Ameh Francis

      Wow…RRY, this is really a journey…thank you for encouraging and showing us the beauty in all… I celebrate and congratulate you and your husband and the unique baby that brought this experience.
      Hmm… Am for team Girl ooo!!!

        • Marie Oganya

          Oh My Dear RRY, I miss you plenty.
          Congratulations ๐Ÿ˜Š Can’t wait to meet my Daughter’s senior friends๐Ÿ˜
          So for me it’s #TeamTwinGirls๐Ÿ˜๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿป
          I Love you Dear.

  • Zaagni Lar

    Cant wait to see our princess ‘teamgirl’, a replica of her momma, even though not sure the kind of hair she’ll have ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜„
    Riiiingy you shall deliver like the hebrew women in Jesus name and your baby’s heart shall be tender towards God all the days of her life, amen.

    • RRY

      @Zaagni Lar…
      MJ all these your secret plans for this baby’s hair won’t succeed. Oh Lord hear my cry and give the baby Long, dark curly hair so Zaag can know you are more powerful than her imaginations๐Ÿ˜„ #TeamGirl

      • Mz Wonci

        Wow Ring am so happy the lord grant you strength u would deliver like the Hebrew women no complications in Jesus name its a pretty girl your gonna be having enjoy motherhood cant wait to meet her

    • Gift

      TeamGirl, but twins will just be too perfect for me
      The girl will be as beautiful and fashionable like my Beautiful Ringnan๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘
      Then boy will carry Gangs cuteness and calm spirit๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐Ÿ’ฏ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ..That has always been my prayers for you guys
      But am super excited and anticipating to behold them๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ
      Congratulations my people
      The birth of these children brings nothing more than joy and happiness to the family

  • Ameh Francis

    Wow…RRY, this is really a journey…thank you for encouraging and showing us the beauty in all… I celebrate and congratulate you and your husband and the unique baby that brought this experience.
    Hmm… Am for team Girl ooo!!!

  • Gloria

    Team twins (Amen!)… I want two.
    Loved reading all the way. Thank you RRY. Missed your articles. It’s encouraging.
    Sure to stay positive in pregnancy.
    I salute your husband.

    • RRY

      @Gloira…
      This one that your introducing the prophetic at this late hour. Pretty yaya’dai??? Hallelujah!!! Let’s wait and see the power of God.
      Thank you for always reading and your encouraging words๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—

  • Hannatu Jura

    Chai… I’m so inspired.
    It’s a wow something.
    Shebi you know that : My love for you doesn’t have part two?
    My prayers are with ๐Ÿ’ž

    • RRY

      @Hanatu Jura…
      ๐Ÿ˜€I’m glad you were inspired though๐Ÿค—
      Many thanks for dropping by, reading and even praying for me. I appreciate. God bless you dear.

  • Anonymous

    TEAM GIRL all day every day, Isabella better come out as a girl o, if not the name remains the same…lol. Either way, I’m psyched to be an aunt, finally will agree to be called AUNT ANITA…. yipeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee…..

    • RRY

      @Anitaaa… I know you can’t wait wvwn more than me. Infact I feel like I’M JUST your surrogate and this baby is actually yours. ๐Ÿ˜„ I’m glad she will come and see this post and the comment one day. I’m sure you will be her favourite Aunt too.#Nmwaa

  • Anita

    TEAM GIRL ALL THE WAY, even if its a boy, the name Isabella remains o. Either way i’m so psyched, can’t wait to be called Aunt Anita, the countdown to welcome baby Issy begins… Yipeeeeeeeeee.

    • Abigail

      Awwwwwnnn…Dear daughter I am filled with great joy for our countless blessing.. God always gives his own strength. Team girl(Named after her grandmum Abigail)lol

    • Eberw

      I enjoyed reading this piece beautiful Ring, I’ve so missed your lovely write ups. We thank God for the journey has been, it will end in praise. #teamidenticaltwinsandsamesex

  • Anonymous

    Awwwwwwn, this is amazing. You don’t even look pregi, if not for the pot belly am seeing. Great piece Dookwasรฉ. It’s a Girl๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ƒ

  • Pulcher

    Riri dear am so super excited for you and am so encouraged. You look so beautiful with your baby bump. More grace to you. I feel like doing my own article too… Lolz.
    I love you dear ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    • RRY

      @Pulcher… I’m putting you up to the challenge of writing down your own journey.
      Thank you so much and you also look gorge with yours. I’ve seen pictures of you ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค— amen to your prayers. Love you too precious Mama

      • Hannatu Jura

        Congratulations mummy twins.i cellebrate what God has done in your life. May God bless and keep you all. Much love.
        Mwah!

  • Anonymous

    My very good friend, you are a strong woman and I celebrate you. May the Almighty in His infinite mercy bless and give you safe delivery (Amen). Very nice write up, I always look forward to reading your works. You are a gem ๐Ÿ’Ž baby girl. Oh and Iโ€™m for team BabyGirlโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’‹ ๐Ÿ˜˜

    • RRY

      @Anonymous…
      Many thanks for coming to the blog, reading and saying a prayer for me. Again, I’m encouraged. God bless you ๐Ÿค— and amen to all the prayers.

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