…When I was younger than Iam now, you wouldn’t be far from right if you thought I was eccentric- in other words, I was unusual and startling.
We would sit down and sample guys.
Admire some, laugh at some, and others we criticise base on whatever standard they were being judged from.
Oh when I was a child, I did think like a child but now that I’m grown, I’ve sure put away childish things
(See 1Corinthians 13:11-NLT
“When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.”)
My preference were handsome guys.
Any guy who wasn’t cute regardless of any other “Right Thing” he had going on wasn’t enough to tickle my fancy.
On one occasion, my cousin told me of her new found boyfriend whom her discription of him suggested he was every girls dream. I couldn’t wait to draw my conclusion of him.
She said he was so cute, tall, masculine with the right bicep and tricep. To ice the cake, she said he had money too.
This “lucky or unlucky brother” as the case maybe pulled over at my cousin’s house 30minutes after we had finished dissecting him. (It’s a normal thing, guys do it too so don’t frown at me.
Oh my goodness. This girl didn’t do justice to describing this guy, how could she have left out his extremely cute lips?(my mind wondered… what about his pretty smile?
Someone please take me away…
The excellent glow that emaneted from him was far from superficial, shining from within him like the brilliance from precious stones. Shan-takayaa( making a girl speak in tongues on a hot afternoon…
He’s entire being, so unbelievable only suitable for imaginations consumption yet so real.
I told my cousin it wasn’t a good idea to tag me along since it was their first date but she insisted, and so me and a friend of hers accompanied.
We arrived at the exquisite venue some minutes after and everything was going perfectly until… My cousin couldn’t keep her throat from sticking out which was quite a habit of hers.
I felt like digging a hole right from where I sat so I could cover the shame hauling on my face the moment my cousin began to ask “Mr Perfect” for money. Wah???
She first started by saying and I quote “I’m really tired of my hair, I just want to change... The guy out of his niceness asked how much it would cost…
20k she replied…
He was mute for some seconds and my heart began to pound profusely.
Infact I went ballistic… As a way of trying to control the fury massing inside me, I bent over the plate of rice in front of me.
RRY, whats going on in his mind you may be asking, I am clueless too baby so then let’s find out.
One thing I was sure of was the fact that, the 20k announcement created a storm cloud on his face.
I thought she would have used her number six to notice he was a bit put-off by her request and would stop. But nay.
My darling cousin continued…
“Mr Perfect” however, excused us after sipping his Chapman and went outside, picking his car keys along.
This guy won’t come back I thought in my heart. If I was ever certain of anything in my life, this was it.
And then sudeldenly…
He returned and handed her the money.
Lunch was done and we were about leaving and then my cousin again
“please can I buy ice cream? Mr Perfect-oh sure. He replied.
She matched to the freezer, instead of pretending to be moderate by picking one, she took two of the biggest bowl’.
… one is enough now I was trying to convince)
(take away for the rest of the family at home she said.)
Before we arrived at the house, we pulled over two times looking for pop-up (credit/recharge card)
He was forced to buy not just for her, but also for me and her friend also.
I won’t bore you with this long story so I’ll stop here…
But guess what? “Mr Perfect” NEVER came back neither cared to return any of her missed calls or messages.
Why did I take my time to draw this out?
My precious LADIES. There are certain things you should NEVER do especially when a relationship is at its starting stage.
...A man at this point is not sure of MANY THINGs so he takes his time to examine what kinda lady he will be yoking himself with.
After that, he will determine if you’re a risk worth taking or not.
Many men have fears. Forget about being macho. One of their greatest fears is ending up with the wrong woman and you dont want to project yourself as the wrong one.
Therefore, be vigilant. Do not destroy the prospects of something that could turn out to be beautiful someday…
Some Ladies with their own hands ruin the fragile thread upon which their relationship stand.
Don’t be that lady.
A wise lady builds…
She doesn’t destroy.
Recieve grace to build wisely.
I really just want to see that the tiniest things we do does not ruin the future of something beautiful which is why I’ve written some tips on Things You Should Never Ask or do especially in an early stage of a relationship.
I will be publishing it on the blog tomorrow so don’t miss out. Make sure you check out it.
I will keep coming your way because I remain your favorite girl #RRY.
Many thanks for being a part of this blog.