It is often said “those who are in, are wishing to come out while those outside are rushing to go in” (if you know, you know) ”
I’ve always wondered why people get so excited the moment you tell them you are getting married. ( some of my friends thought I was a saddsit for not getting super excited but nope)
What even confuses me is a statement like “oh I’m so happy for you”… (really? Why though?
I think it’s more cliché because those who make these statements don’t even know why they do. (forgive me if I’m wrong)
I heard that “certain” Ladies go as far as rubbing their engaged status in the face of other older ladies… Sister! Are u serious?
May God forgive your ignorance.
Meanwhile, another report has reached us that some girls get envious of some ladies SIMPLY because they are engaged… Are you for real? You need to change your mind girl.
Marriage is GOOD but don’t rush, you will be married your entire life.
Yet, I don’t know exactly why people get so excited as though it was some sorta gold medal or I just got my name written into the”Guinness book.”
Don’t get me wrong people of God– because I can see someone frowning at me already.
I’m in no way saying “marriage” doesn’t deserve an accolade, what I’m saying is, young people often get it wrong and hype it more than what they think it is. ( some people belive it’s a do or Die)
More than being happy for me for being married;
I sincerely look forward to when people will REALLY BE HAPPY for me because ” I touched many lives…
Because I made an impact, because I let others draw from my energy, or that I became an inspiration to other women and the younger generation at large.
I got into a conversation with a “married” woman I met in markurdi and she said something that made me laugh so hard but also made me to think deeply about my decision as a single lady.
she said and I quote, “anytime I see a pre-wedding picture, I feel like screaming and telling them— STOP!
This lady hated everything about marriage simply because she was regreting hers.
… It is no lie that Some married people are wishing they could be singles again.
(I know people who would pay any amount to get back their single status) whilst some single folks CANNOT wait to be married.
You see this life? #Laughs
I’m not quite sure while some of us are rushing to get married but one thing I know is a killer in any relationship is lack of contentment.
Out of the MANY reasons that drive people into having thoughts of quiting marriage is the absence of contentment.
What then is contentment?
“Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction maybe drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind.”
Sweetie lemme inform you that being content is a heart thing therefore, you need to deal with your heart above everything else before thinking relationship or marriage.
I feel the need to say “Contentment is not dependent on the things that happened or did not happen to you.”
Did you know being in a sweet relationship is hard work? So much hard work only the strong make it work.
I’m sure marriage is harder work, a good happy (home) marriage is not a gift.
It is a reward.
This means, you must work at it to enjoy any good thing you desire to see or you’ve ever admired from others.
Trust me, the grass is never greener next door, it takes some watering, tending and trimming to make it so.
Any grass can be green regardless of it’s location.
For those of us singles or already married, I encourage you this morning to invest into your relationship so that this thing can work and I assure you, you will live heaven on earth.
It is not enough to wish and fantasise about having a good man or woman, there are certain principles you must be willing to engage to keep them happy and fulfilled.
May you find and apply them and may your home be heaven on earth.