In my little life, I’ve seen alot of women go through needless hurt and truly, it breaks my heart. I mean how do you look at the thing you love so much and tell yourself it’s time to Walk Away…?
Well, sometimes you need to stop putting in so much effort when all he does is pull a step back each time you do.
Perhaps, you could intoduce what we call the paradoxical Intervention… Please don’t ask me what that is because I’m not about to explain (maybe another day… *InsertSmile
I will tell you that pulling away is very common for a man, even in the best of relationships.
However, what matters here is not that the man is pulling away…
What I’m more interested about is how You HANDLE the situation when he does.
How do you usually respond when a man pulls away? Do you get upset and react out of fear to the problem he’s creating?
YOU calm down like the lady you are and try to bring up a solution?
Women are experts at sensing that a relationship is about to hit the rock… But more so, they are experts at introducing what I call The-Fix-It-Mode…
(she wants to do any and EVERYTHING she can to fix the problem) not so fast baby. ..
Before you start fighting tool and nail to salvage the “situationship or relationship”, or whatever the case maybe for you, you might need to see a few things I’ve written that will help you “avoid being disappointed TIME and TIME AGAIN.
First Thing’ First…
* Be convinced a man is worth your TIME AND the risk before you invest your whole life into him. Ensure you are not putting in too much than he’s willing to reciprocate.
* If he was sincere enough to open up and say “He’s Not Ready: Find out the best way to communicate your needs without SCARING him off or putting pressure on him.
* Do not be deceived that sleeping with a man will get him to commit.
A man can have sex with a lady he doesn’t love that’s why sex is not the solution.
… If the pureness of your heart couldn’t, certainly your legs, your beautiful “firm” breast, not even your butt (or whatever you think is right on your body) would get the job done. So my dear, close those legs. (better a broken heart than a broken leg.
* Don’t over do. Just keep things Warm.
It’s important to strike a balance between showing you’re into him and showing you’re not too needy.
If he texts you after a couple of days, don’t leave it too long to respond or he’ll assume you’re not bothered.
Engage in a few texts back and forth, throw in a little drama but don’t get sidetracked into endless conversation… or it will get stale and you’ll lose any mystery. (as a woman, you should be an expert in adding mystery to spice things up)
You want to leave him a reason to get in touch again or to schedule another date to talk in person. So don’t waste all your good conversation on Facebook and WhatsApp.
Also, while you shouldn’t be afraid to text him first, don’t do it every time or it will put you in the position of always being the one chasing. Let him be the one to make first contact sometimes – it will let you know if he’s actually into you or not.
Don’t Jump too quickly.
* And lastly, make sure your actions are not doing the opposite of what you desire (putting-him-off instead of pushing him closer to your heart where he should be.
I sincerely pray for you that God gives you the love you desire and most importantly, the wisdom required to keep it.
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Many thanks.. .
I remain your favorite girl RRY… I WILL come again soon. I wish you the best in life and love.